Well when I was nine years old that was when my parents talked to me about sex. I knew what sex was when I was 6 but when I was 9 that was then they really talked about that to me. While they were talking to me about sex they mentioned I should wait until marriage. I said ok cool, no big deal. I will just wait until marriage.
In high school I had the same mind-set. I just didn't understand why everyone else didn't have the same mind-set. I was like whatever but then I realized I was abnormal in my beliefs which made me feel discouraged.
Now I'm 21 and, I want to still wait until marriage. Not because I think sex is dirty or bad. But because now I believe sex is so sacred. The religious reason why I wait until marriage is NOT because I find my value in my virginity but because I find my value in Christ. God sent his son and, died on the Christ for me and, for us I owe both of them to obey their commandments and, trust them.
The secular reasons why I choose to wait until marriage is because, I don't want to jump in bed with every man I date. I know when I get married there can be a possibility of divorce but that is not the same as dating someone for 6 months, having sex with them, dating someone else for 6 months having sex with them etc. I want to have sex with someone I trust and, love. Not for a person I am dating and, not know that if we are going to decide to break-up or get married.
There is only one thing hard about being a virgin is the pressure you get from the world. You know how many weird faces people find out I'm waiting until marriage? A lot. They think it's so weird. I mean, really? It's not really that weird and, it is possible.
I bet people who don't understand the waiting until marriage concept is thinking but your wedding night may be awkward, and also won't find yourself sexually compatible. Let me tell you something. I'm not worried about that. It is going to awkward the first night with me and, my husband, just like it was awkward when you and your boyfriend/girlfriend had sex. We will just laugh our way through it. Like I said I don't think sex is dirty. I don't think the human body is dirty. I happen to love my body. I'm trying to lose weight for health reasons but I'm not ashamed if someone saw my body.
The same people who are saying that we shouldn't hold our value in virginity which I agree with, are the same people who value sex very highly in relationships. Sex is important but it's not the only important thing and, shouldn't be held on a pedestal.
I believe the important thing is friendship, communication and, trust. The #1 most important thing is dare I say sacrifice in a marriage. Or compromise.
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